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How Motherhood Taught Me I’m Loved

May 14, 2017

Filed Under : Motherhood

How Motherhood Has Taught Me To Love Myself | lovelolablog.com How Motherhood Has Taught Me To Love Myself | lovelolablog.com So, I’m changing it up a little bit this Mother’s Day. Instead of posting perfect pictures of my breakfast in bed prepared perfectly imperfect by my 18 month old and her dad, I’m sharing the real, raw, vulnerable side. The side that every one tries to sweep under the rug, or tuck away in those dark corners, and pretend it doesn’t exist. The side that will overtake your life if you let it, and how motherhood has taken my life back…

I’ve always been plagued by that little nagging voice. The voice that is sometimes so quietly chanting negative mantras at me. The voice that at other times is screaming at me and throws me in a panic. Growing up, it was called “perfectionism.” It’s what made me a straight A student and always kept my room clean. Now, as an adult, it’s more pinned as “anxiety, worry, fear.” “Will they like me? Will I be enough? Will I be accepted?” It responds back so confidently, “No, no, and no.”

Fighting back is something I’ve done better at different seasons in my life. The fighting seems to come when I’m down on my knees left with no other choice. Fight or die.

For so many years I’ve listened to this voice feed me lies that I accepted as truth. I’ve let it knock me down, strip me of all I have, and then take the little that I had left. I’ve listened to it tell me, “You can’t, you can’t, you can’t.”

In college I learned about these little neuro pathways, or something, that we have in our brain that build roadways, or something, of consistent thoughts. The more we replace those negative thoughts, the more the old pathways will become grown over and new, positive pathways will be paved. So fighting is the act of replacing the consistent negative thoughts with truth. Refusing to listen to the lying thoughts that come flooding my brain. Filling my mind with positivity. It’s when my Dad use to tell me as a child, “Would Jesus say that to you?” Or when Scofield tells me now, “We take every thought captive and teach it to obey Christ (2 Corinthians 10:5).” The mental fight isn’t the easy way out…it’s exhausting, the road less traveled, and just plain hard.

But it’s worth it. So very worth it. And until Piper was born I didn’t understand just how worth it it was.

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As I look at that bright smile, the beaming ray of light that she is, it crushes me to think that light could ever be snuffed out by lies and negativity. It would break my heart if she were to think the things of herself that I have thought of myself. As she’s learning to talk, she starting to repeat everything we say. I mean everything. What if the things she started to repeat were the negative things I say … “I’m not pretty enough, my teeth aren’t straight enough, my hair’s not thick enough, I wish I was different.” It would crush my soul.

I look at that little face and cheesy smile, and think about just how much she’s taught me about who I am. This child loves me. Like, LOVES me. She doesn’t care if my hair is greasy, what I ate that day, if I worked out, if there’s food in my teeth, if the house is a mess…basically if I’m less than perfect ;). We laugh together and play together; she begs me to hold her and demands we snuggle during episodes of Clifford…and it has nothing to do with how I look on the outside. But has everything to do with the person that I am … my spirit … my love … the comfort I provide for her, the care and love I give to her. She’s sees beyond the surface, and loves me, needs me, wants me. If my child can love me the way she does, it gives me just a teensy tiny glimpse into the love my Creator and Savior has for me. And understanding that love is the kind of stuff that transforms your soul. It’s the stuff that slays those negative voices. That changes you forever.

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“Take the helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God.” (Ephesians 6:17)

So Happy Mother’s Day my fellow Mama’s. Keep fighting. They’re worth it … You’re worth it.

photos by sophie brendle photography

Home is Where the Pants Aren’t

May 8, 2017

Filed Under : Lifestyle - Motherhood

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I thought I would share a few snapshots from a just a regular ol’ morning at home. Mom with her coffee, Piper with her milk…and probably sans pants because who needs those anyway!? Not this 18 month old.

This girl …. she is giving us a run for our money lately. But it’s moments like these where she pulls all her cute strings that the tantrums from the day before seem to just fade away ;). Love our Piper girl, her cheesy smile, and her curly red locks. Love our simple, silly, everyday moments at home.

Easter in Pictures

April 21, 2017

Filed Under : Lifestyle - Motherhood - Style

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I hope you had a wonderful Easter! I look forward to this weekend every year, and the joy and hope that it brings. It’s funny how having a baby makes you look at things, like holidays, a lot differently. I found myself super conflicted over the easter bunny this year, and we ended up not doing an easter basket. In the coming years we’ll probably bring back the easter basket, but I don’t see the “easter bunny” ever delivering it in our house ;). We did do an egg hunt, and Piper had so much fun searching for eggs. I was so proud of how well she did! They were pretty much all laying out in the open, but she knew to pick them up and put them in the basket. Can she stay 17 months old forever!? I could eat her.

I also couldn’t get over her in her little easter dress. Looking back at these pictures, she is the subject in every single one, ha. So if you aren’t her grandmother or aunt, you might not find this post super intriguing, but a few pictures from Easter anyway…

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Dress: Mint Julep | Shoes: Marc Fisher | Earrings: Baublebar (similar) | Piper’s dress (on sale!) | Piper’s shoes: Stride Rite

I hope you had a wonderful Easter!

What Every New Mom Really Needs

April 16, 2017

Filed Under : Lifestyle - Motherhood

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I’ve teamed up with my friends over at Terminix today to talk about motherhood, specifically those days and weeks right after baby is born. It’s something that I don’t think gets talked about enough, which in turn can leave many moms feeling down, lonely, and overwhelmed. Fortunately, I had a really lovely postpartum recovery period with Piper (strange, I know), but the anxiety for me set in around month 3. As Scofield and I think and dream about what our family could look like in the future, I can’t help but wonder how those recovery months after another baby will be with two or more little ones to care for. I realized it’s something I never shared on my blog, so I thought I would chime in my two cents on what every mom really needs after baby…

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Food. If you think a pregnant mama is crazy about food, try a breastfeeding mama ;). My cravings were almost just as strong during the first month or so of nursing, and I felt like I was hungry around the clock. But then of course the last thing I wanted to think about doing was preparing food. Whether you pop by with fresh baked cookies or an entire dinner, this small act will be met with so much gratitude. A friend set up a meal schedule for us, and I remember feeling so loved and cared for when friends provided dinner.

Coffee. Lots of coffee. All the coffee. So much coffee. I still remember when one of my best friends showed up at the hospital the morning after Piper was born with a fresh starbucks latte. I had been up all night and the last thing I wanted was hospital coffee. If it wasn’t for my disheveled body at the moment, I would have jumped out of that bed and given her a big giant hug. No no mama will ever say no to a cup of coffee.

Cleaning Service. Whether this is a deep cleaning indoors, or pest control outdoors, it is so helpful to know that all of your house needs are being met. With figuring out how to be a new mom and feeding a baby around the clock, there’s little energy for much else. Yet, is so refreshing to be able to bunker down in a fresh, clean house. When it comes to “cleaning,” don’t forget to think about the outdoors as well. Piper was born in the winter, so we weren’t outdoors much those early days, but I imagine with a spring or summer baby it would be wonderful to be able to sit on the porch, or outside on a blanket, without having to worry about ants or mosquitos. Terminix provides so many wonderful services for a pest free backyard, which you can learn more about here.

Company. Even though I’m an introvert, it’s amazing what just having another ‘body’ around can do for my peace of mind. I remember loving having my mom in the house, hanging out in the background, there to listen or help if I needed her. Just the simple presence of a loved one can seriously help to prevent loneliness and overwhelm for a new mama.

A massage. This one might be a little high maintenance, but a postpartum massage does wonders. Maybe it’s because I’m a physical touch junkie, but having an hour to get pampered and rest in between feedings is such a treat. Motherhood is full of so much joy, but can also be so very hard. I truly believe that having that time to mentally and physically rejuvenate makes all the difference in the world.

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If there’s one thing I’ve learned since this motherhood gig, it’s that raising a family truly takes a village. Whether it’s a text of encouragement, a warm meal, or a thoughtful gift, every little act kindness gets us through that newborn fog.

This post is in partnership with Terminix Service, Inc., but all content and opinions are my own.

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