One thing that I have found to be essential during this season of life, and this season of the year, is finding little ways to make time for myself. Before we started growing our family, I use to talk and dream of picking up and heading out west to experience another part of the country and go an adventure together. I’d talk about Colorado, Oregon, Seattle… maybe I was watching a little too much Grey’s Anatomy ;). But the more I’ve gotten to know myself, the more I realize maybe a long term stent away from family in a colder, cloudier place isn’t the best for me.This winter it has been oddly warm here in South Carolina, but typically I have to put a little extra energy into self care during the January and February months to keep those winter blues at bay. I have found that to be especially important since having a baby. This time last year was tough (another post for another day), but it helped to teach me what my mind and body need and that it is possible to care for others without fully neglecting yourself. Here are a few things that help to keep me sane and help to make me a better mother, wife, and friend….
- Get a babysitter! Like right now. Find and book one immediately. I am so fortunate to have family close by who are always ready and waiting to babysit…well, most of the time anyway ;). Getting someone to watch and play with Piper while I do some dishes, laundry, run errands, or go for a run has made a world of difference. When there is clutter in my house, there is clutter in my mind, and I have found that the act of doing housework uninterrupted can actually be soothing for me. It’s also refreshing to get out of the house to take myself on a coffee date, go to the grocery store, or peruse target without having to manage a toddler tantrum because all she wants to do is stand up in the cart and doesn’t seem to understand why I won’t let her (fun times). I come home refreshed and with arms wide open ready to embrace the toddler running towards me at full speed ahead ;).
- Book a monthly spa service. I know what you’re thinking, “yeah, right.” But, I’m serious. For me, I get my eyebrows waxed monthly by an esthestician who works at a nearby salon. She makes your eyebrow waxing a full spa experience. It’s amazing. You lie on a heated, padded, and raised massage table in a dimly lit room with essential oils and soothing music playing as she works her waxing magic. It only takes 10-15 minutes total, but they are 10-15 minutes of full bliss. She also goes the extra mile and if I have a spot on my face that needs attention she’ll treat it, and she’s always willing to answer my skin and makeup questions. Some other services that are equally soothing include getting your hair cut or colored (my hair dresser gives a head and neck massage while she washes your hair…. ahhhhhhmazing), a manicure, pedicure, eyelash extensions, or back massage. Worth.every.penny.
- Wake up before the kiddos. This is one I’m still working on. I am not a morning person in the least, but am trying so hard to be. When I wake up to a crying, hungry baby and immediately have to hit the ground running, my day ends up mimicking those very first moments…chaotic and crazy. When I can get up, drink a cup of coffee, and spend time reading before Piper is up, it makes the biggest difference in the world.
- Ladies night. I love a good ladies night. Whether it’s having friends over after Piper goes to bed, meeting up at another friend’s house, or going out for drinks, connecting with other women has been so refreshing and good for my soul.
- Bubble baths. This has become one of my favorite ways to end my day. I’ll grab a glass of wine (or la croix…i’m addicted!), pop on a playlist, and light a candle, and I could soak for hours. In my opinion, a bath fixes everything, which is why it’s no surprise I even loved laboring in the bath (see Piper’s birth story here).
- Get away overnight. The first time we left Piper with family overnight was right around her first birthday. We took the plunge and didn’t just scoot away to a hotel nearby, but instead went 9+ hours away to Florida! I was experiencing so much mom guilt and anxiety before we left, but once we settled into the groove of our vacation and my parents assured me for the hundredth time that Piper was safe and having fun with them, I was able to relax and reset. Diving straight into the deep end with getting away overnight has made other little getaways feel like a piece of cake. Once again, we have family close by and Piper loves going to their houses and even spending the night, so we welcome the help! I think it’s also really healthy for both her and us to be flexible and allow grandparents to keep her.
- Find a favorite coffee, favorite wine, favorite bubble bath, and favorite tv show. I found this advice from this refreshing read on Austin Mom’s Blog, here, and I couldn’t agree more (although I added in the tv show part). Just looking forward to a delicious cup of coffee when I wake up, or a glass of wine, bubble, bath, or tv show once Piper is down makes any day just a little easier to face.
- Use nap time to pamper yourself every once in a while. It’s so tempting to try and get an entire day’s to-do list done during nap time, but I highly recommend selfishly using nap time every once in a while. I love to make my own little mini spa at home and paint my nails, wear a face mask, wash my make up brushes, read a book, practice yoga, or take a nap myself….
For any of these to be possible, it is so important that your house feels like a home. I read a quote on a friend’s instagram, ” Home interprets heaven. Home is heaven for beginners.” And being a homebody, I couldn’t agree more. Having a home that I am constantly working on to make my own and keep clean and safe allows it to be a safe haven and a place where I can make make time for myself. Which is why I am so thankful to all the services Terminix offers to help make that possible.
I’d love to know, what are your favorite ways to make time for yourself? Do any of these resonate with you!?
This post is in partnership with Terminix Service Inc., but all content and opinions are my own.