I’ve teamed up with my friends over at Terminix today to talk about motherhood, specifically those days and weeks right after baby is born. It’s something that I don’t think gets talked about enough, which in turn can leave many moms feeling down, lonely, and overwhelmed. Fortunately, I had a really lovely postpartum recovery period with Piper (strange, I know), but the anxiety for me set in around month 3. As Scofield and I think and dream about what our family could look like in the future, I can’t help but wonder how those recovery months after another baby will be with two or more little ones to care for. I realized it’s something I never shared on my blog, so I thought I would chime in my two cents on what every mom really needs after baby…
Food. If you think a pregnant mama is crazy about food, try a breastfeeding mama ;). My cravings were almost just as strong during the first month or so of nursing, and I felt like I was hungry around the clock. But then of course the last thing I wanted to think about doing was preparing food. Whether you pop by with fresh baked cookies or an entire dinner, this small act will be met with so much gratitude. A friend set up a meal schedule for us, and I remember feeling so loved and cared for when friends provided dinner.
Coffee. Lots of coffee. All the coffee. So much coffee. I still remember when one of my best friends showed up at the hospital the morning after Piper was born with a fresh starbucks latte. I had been up all night and the last thing I wanted was hospital coffee. If it wasn’t for my disheveled body at the moment, I would have jumped out of that bed and given her a big giant hug. No no mama will ever say no to a cup of coffee.
Cleaning Service. Whether this is a deep cleaning indoors, or pest control outdoors, it is so helpful to know that all of your house needs are being met. With figuring out how to be a new mom and feeding a baby around the clock, there’s little energy for much else. Yet, is so refreshing to be able to bunker down in a fresh, clean house. When it comes to “cleaning,” don’t forget to think about the outdoors as well. Piper was born in the winter, so we weren’t outdoors much those early days, but I imagine with a spring or summer baby it would be wonderful to be able to sit on the porch, or outside on a blanket, without having to worry about ants or mosquitos. Terminix provides so many wonderful services for a pest free backyard, which you can learn more about here.
Company. Even though I’m an introvert, it’s amazing what just having another ‘body’ around can do for my peace of mind. I remember loving having my mom in the house, hanging out in the background, there to listen or help if I needed her. Just the simple presence of a loved one can seriously help to prevent loneliness and overwhelm for a new mama.
A massage. This one might be a little high maintenance, but a postpartum massage does wonders. Maybe it’s because I’m a physical touch junkie, but having an hour to get pampered and rest in between feedings is such a treat. Motherhood is full of so much joy, but can also be so very hard. I truly believe that having that time to mentally and physically rejuvenate makes all the difference in the world.
If there’s one thing I’ve learned since this motherhood gig, it’s that raising a family truly takes a village. Whether it’s a text of encouragement, a warm meal, or a thoughtful gift, every little act kindness gets us through that newborn fog.
This post is in partnership with Terminix Service, Inc., but all content and opinions are my own.
photos by kiley lauren photography