Last Updated on June 20, 2025 by pm_author_91ksj
Starting university is a whirlwind of emotions, isn’t it? For many, it’s an exciting leap into independence, new subjects, and a vibrant social scene.
Whether you’re fresh out of school or stepping back into education as a mature student, the first few weeks can feel like a flurry of introductions, welcome events, and awkwardly memorising everyone’s name. But behind the buzz, there’s often a quiet hum of anxiety: Will I make friends? Will I fit in?
These feelings are completely normal, and if you’ve ever felt that way, you’re not alone.
Embracing the New Chapter
For many traditional students, university is their first time living away from home, and the social aspect can feel overwhelming. Suddenly, you’re surrounded by thousands of new faces, and it can be hard to know where to start.
University is one of life’s great fresh starts. It’s a chance to reinvent yourself, try new things, and connect with people from all walks of life. But while that sounds thrilling on paper, in practice it can feel daunting. Everyone seems to be making friends fast, and if your experience doesn’t match the highlight reel on social media, it’s easy to feel like you’re falling behind.
The truth? Most students – mature or not – feel this way at some point. We all crave connection and belonging. It just takes time, patience, and a little intention.
Make the Most of Freshers’ Week
These initial weeks are designed to help you feel at home. Attend as many events as you can, even if stepping into a room full of strangers feels a little nerve-racking. From welcome talks and guided campus tours to themed nights and society fairs, these early experiences are perfect opportunities to meet people in a low-pressure environment.
It’s not about making best friends on day one, it’s about opening the door to new connections. Say hello to the person next to you, strike up a conversation at a mixer, or tag along to an event even if you’re not sure it’s your thing. You never know where it might lead. Chances are, most people are just as eager to meet others as you are – and just as nervous too!
Start With Shared Spaces
One of the simplest ways to build friendships is by making the most of shared spaces. Whether you’re living in university halls of residence, a shared flat, or a room in a student house, these settings naturally offer opportunities to strike up conversations with fellow students. A quick “How’s your course going?” over morning coffee can often turn into something more.
Many mature students opt for private student accommodation in Liverpool, London, Manchester, Leeds and other big cities, where co-living spaces create a relaxed environment to connect with others without the pressure of traditional halls.
And if you’re living alone or commuting, seek out common areas on campus like study zones, libraries or coffee spots. Familiar faces become friendly ones surprisingly quickly.
Join the Club (Literally)
Universities are brimming with societies, clubs, and student-run events. There’s everything from film clubs to hiking groups to societies built around identity, interests, or culture. These spaces can be a lifeline, particularly if you feel out of sync with the typical student crowd.
Mature students often worry they’ll feel out of place, but student communities are far more diverse than they might seem at first glance. Many unis also have dedicated support groups and lounges for mature students, so you can meet people navigating similar challenges (and joys!) of balancing study, work, family, and life.
Don’t Be Afraid to Make the First Move
Friendship often starts with a simple “hello.” It might feel a bit awkward at first, but putting yourself out there is worth it. If someone seems approachable in a seminar or workshop, ask if they want to grab a coffee or study together. You’re likely to find they’re relieved you asked.
And if you’re more introverted or just finding your feet, even small gestures can build connections, such as commenting in a group chat, sharing notes, or simply offering a friendly smile. Every effort counts.
Be Kind to Yourself
It’s easy to fall into the trap of thinking everyone else has it all figured out. But university is a huge adjustment. You’re learning, growing, and finding your rhythm. Some people click with their tribe straight away; others build friendships slowly, over months or even years. Both are okay.
Give yourself grace. Loneliness doesn’t mean you’re doing anything wrong; it means you’re human. Seek support when you need it, and remember: your people are out there.
Think Beyond the Lecture Hall
Friendships at uni don’t have to start in the classroom. Some of the best connections come from the everyday parts of student life: cooking a meal together, exploring your city, venting over deadlines. And don’t underestimate the joy of spontaneous plans – last-minute picnics, group study sessions, or trips to the local market can spark real connection.
If you’re in a larger city, take time to explore. Places like Liverpool, Leeds and Manchester have vibrant student scenes and plenty of affordable food, shopping and entertainment options to try.
Build Community on Your Terms
Ultimately, fitting in doesn’t mean becoming someone you’re not. The beauty of university life is that there’s room for everyone. Whether you’re quiet or bubbly, 18 or 38, just beginning or returning to education, you belong.
Focus on finding people who appreciate you as you are. The best friendships aren’t built on trying to impress but on authenticity, shared values, and genuine kindness.
Final Thoughts
Making friends and fitting in at university doesn’t happen overnight. But it does happen. Be brave. Be curious. And most importantly, be yourself. The connections you make might just surprise you – and they could shape your life long after the final lecture ends… Here’s to finding your people, and finding your place!
